Love, Logic, and Positive Thinking

Dancing Moose embraces the Love and Logic principles for teaching children to make responsible choices.  Love and logic is not a discipline system that creates punishments when children make poor choices; rather, it is a system that helps children recognize that poor choices naturally lead to poor outcomes, and good choices lead to good outcomes.  That is the logic behind the discipline system.  It sounds simplistic, and we all know that behavior is anything but simplistic.  Nevertheless, helping children consistently expect to own their choices is a powerful way to help children become attuned to thinking about how they might make positive choices and enjoy positive outcomes.

This ownership of one’s actions establishes a positive approach to life.  Children begin to think about what kinds of actions will bring about satisfying results, and this thought process provides positive habits of thought that yield lasting benefits.  Young children need to recognize that they have control of many circumstances in their life, and they have the ability to experience positive outcomes when they concentrate on and expect them.  They can even reframe negative thought processes to concentrate on positive expectations, helping them avoid the stress of fearing negative results.

Teachers and other adults in children’s lives can engage children in verbalizing their thoughts as they face decisions or experience the results of poor decisions.  They can help children make the connection between negative thoughts and outcomes and positive thoughts and outcomes.  It is essential that adults patiently allow children to experience the results of their own actions without imposing their own emotional response, which is most likely frustration at the child’s poor choice.  Love and logic instead teaches adults to sympathize with the sad outcome that results from a child’s poor choice.  Through this supportive attitude, children have an opportunity to think about their choice and consider how to make a better choice in the future.

As children are allowed to experience the products of positive and negative choices and given an opportunity to think about those products, they feel the important sense of control over themselves.  This control can help guide them toward positive thinking and positive expectations.  These positive habits of mind create a powerful pathway for children’s productive futures.  It leads to the kind of hope and optimism that every individual deserves as he or she grows into adulthood.